QUOTE OF THE WEEK
"Listen or thy words will keep thee deaf."
--American Indian proverb
PERSONAL REFLECTIONS
Webster defines conversation as, "the act or an instance of talking together." Far be it from me to take issue with Webster, but I think a better definition is the act or an instance of "listening" together. If we do not listen, we cannot truly understand what is being discussed; conversation does not take place. Instead it is just a cacophony of words--my words and your words--independent thoughts and ideas, without a real connection. But if we listen then we blend our thoughts and ideas into a cohesive direction. When is the last time you learned something from talking? We learn from listening not from talking. Our contribution of words is most effective when we intertwine them with the thoughts of another. To do this we must listen.
Have you ever been part of or observed a conversation where words are spewing forth in a wild word race? It is exhausting. You walk away from the conversation wondering what you accomplished. Contrast that to a conversation where ideas are respected and people really listen before adding their contributions. How do you feel after this type of exchange? Usually you find a peaceful feeling of accomplishment. It does not mean everyone agrees, but at least everyone has a better understanding.
How do you become a good listener? It is simple. Keep your mouth shut. Be in the moment and not down the road. Listen before you formulate your words. Listen! Become an avid conversationalist by . . . being . . . quiet.
Blessings and Love,
Allen Schmeltz
Copyright © 1999 Allen F. Schmeltz. All rights reserved.
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