Only twelve words are found in the quotation of Marcus Aurelius’,
but such profound words. Our lives are a constant search for happiness. We think
that we if we have certain "things" they will make us happy. If we work hard at
a job we dislike just to live for retirement, then we will be happy. If we just
have a certain girlfriend or boyfriend, then surly we will be happy. Money, oh
yes, money will make us happy. Or if we belong to a certain club or hang out
with the "right" people, then we will surely have happiness. If we live up to
the expectations of others, then maybe we will be happy. Perhaps moving to
another location will make us happy. And on and on . . .
Yet what things in life are at the very soul of happiness? What brings us
that inner peace and calmness, that indescribable feeling that carries us
through all our challenges and happenings? The answer requires a great deal of
introspection. At the core of this introspection is motives. When we can
honestly look at our motives for the things we do, then we can explore their
value at bringing us happiness. Why are we buying the latest state-of-the-art
products? Will they bring us happiness or just complicate our lives, leaving us
wanting more? Are we using today’s technology as the tool to allow us more time
to pursue happiness or as an end in itself? What about our relationships? Are
we constantly "getting" in our relationships with others without giving? Freely
giving of our ourselves and our talents can bring a wealth of emotional riches
into our lives. Or are we too giving? Are we neglecting our own needs? What
about our egos? Are we so wrapped up with our own ego gratification that we miss
the richness of all that is going on around us? Are we overlooking the simple
things?
I have a good friend who finds a great deal of happiness in taking time to be
with and in nature. This costs nothing and brings a peace and healthy
perspective to him. I know others who have achieved the art of unconditionally
giving of themselves without any expectation of a return. You can see the
happiness in them.
Happiness is not something that comes from "things" or other people. It is a
state of mind caused by our reaction and interaction with all things and people.
If you decide to be happy–in spite of the trials and tests that life brings–you
will be in a much better spot to bring about the changes and pursue the goals
that you want.
We all have the tools within us to be happy. Sometimes it is as simple as
making the resolve that we will be happy. In the words of the old Star Trek
series, "Be happy and prosper!"
Blessings and love,
Allen Schmeltz
