The beginning of a new year is often used to make resolutions that are in reality goals. The setting of
these goals provides a target for which to aim. They may involve hope, a desire to change, the seeking of
a better life, the striving for happiness, the elimination of bad habits, the cultivation of good habits, and
much more. In making resolutions (goals) we are striving to making a change in something or bring
something more into our lives. We could perhaps list many things that we would like to achieve or
change. However, what are the really important ones and how do we choose them? Too many goals,
after all, can be overwhelming. To answer this we need to identify our values. What things do we hold
in the highest regard in ourselves and others? These things are the guideposts for setting our goals. For
instance, if we value integrity, honesty, courage, and compassion, then our goals should reflect these
values.
List all the things you can think of that you would like to have. Make another list of the things you would
like to do, and a third list of the things you would like to change. Then list the things you value, not
material things, but the inner values you have about life and people. Match this list against each item you
listed on your have/do/change lists. Perhaps you have listed a broad item such as “become a
millionaire.” Use your values to take a harsh look at this goal. Perhaps the values you have will point
you in another direction. Or perhaps they will support this goal and help refine the methods and means to
accomplish it. Doing this exercise may help you identify things that are really important to you and give
you a better foundation from which to take the next step in your progress.
Throughout all of this, remember what Anderson says: “When we are motivated by goals that have deep
meaning, by dreams that need completion, by pure love that needs expressing, then we truly live life.”
The deep meaning, the dreams and the pure love are all tied to our values. Identify those values and
examine them carefully. Keep them on a very high plain. Change them if needed. If your values are things
that you see in others but not yourself, change that mode of thinking! Make them your own. Use them as a
check point for all your "resolutions." In doing so you will have a tool to help you “truly live life.”
Happy New Year!
Blessings and love,
Allen Schmeltz
