QUOTATION OF THE WEEK
Confidence is the memory of past success.
--Anonymous
PERSONAL REFLECTIONS
Confidence is very powerful. When we have the inner knowledge that we can do something well, we are able better to deal with our fears and anxieties. We talk, move, look, and react with a noticeable air of control and calmness, an air of confidence. This can be an inspiration for others. However, a fine line exists between confidence and arrogance. Confidence is an inner process that brings strength to our actions. When that inner process bursts out in expressions of a "better than thou" attitude, arrogance overtakes confidence. When this happens, others will look not at what the person is saying, but see the bloated ego expressing itself. Eventually they will tune out everything the person says and take steps to avoid the person's arrogance.
There once was a scholar who had a lifetime of great experiences. His knowledge was such that he could provide teachings to eager students that would be life changing. He had confidence! However, as he grew older he came to think of himself as the grand fountain of knowledge. He often spoke of his experiences not in the humble spirit of unconditional giving, but rather, "Look at me. I know it all! I will show you the only way." Little by little, prospective students heard about this arrogant professor and little by little, they avoided his classes. Soon his only students were those who had to take his classes for lack of an alternative or those who were not "tipped off." His knowledge was great, but his attitude turned off many. So the students lost the gift of knowledge they could have been given were it wrapped in a package of respect and true concern, rather than a package of ego filled arrogance.
Look carefully at your confidence. Introspect about how you use and share that confidence. If you do so honestly and openly, you will know the right way to display your confidence in any situation. Find role models that you respect and follow their lead. Avoid those who leave you with a feeling of inadequacy. Seek out those who leave you feeling good about yourself, those who open the window of opportunities. Then your ". . . memory of past success" will help you grow and succeed in the present.
Blessings and love,
Allen Schmeltz